James Ssekamatte
3 min readApr 9, 2021

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This brings back so many memories from 2016. Although if I were to borrow the concept of dough in my case, sometimes the dough just remains sour however much you work it... I don't know if that makes sense. For my experience, this person I really cared about wanted out,... Imagine being the greatest friends on 31st december and then worst enemies on 1st january.. To me it was like someone made it their New Years resolution to get rid of me... To this day I don't know what happened, I try to look for any signs that may help me get closure but none... The only pointer I got after being blocked is that this person posted about being aware of psychopaths and manipulative devils... Given the timeline of events, I think they were reffering to me and something I did although I don't know what it is... This sent me into a depression, I got suicidal a bit until one year later when I decided to begin patching myself up. I don't think things will ever be ok between us but my experience is rare... I think people process anger differently but nothing is ever absolute. In my case, I don't know whether this person hates me now or not but I know that they unblocked me 7-8 months after jan 1st 2016... We aren't friends, we don't talk, and closure is something I gave up on. I chose to love them and always cheer them on from a far even if we will never speak or even see each other again. I channeled my closure in music to help me get my sanity back... I know they are probably dealing with something serious in their life... But my case is different... What I know from the research I did then and my experience is that people never say never.. I don't want to say this for sure but I know when the situation blows over and she's no-longer triggered by whichever event caused her to block you, she will for sure revisit the memories and re-consider blowing life back into the friendship.. Whether or not she comes back is something that only time can tell but she will for sure re-visit the memories.. What I can say is that don't try to override the good memories you have with her by any actions you do now. In my case, I was desperate, fearful and panicky.. I sent so many texts to this person which made them resent me more and when they snapped, they said things that no one should ever say to another... So when the heat of what caused the breakup died down and it was time to revisit the friendship and memories, they must have been hit with these memories of guilt, defensiveness and more resentment toward me and this is probably why I'm unblocked but a stranger now more than 5 years later. Yes give them time to process the emotions.. Those emotions will fade, these memories will die.. what won't die are the good memories you have with them.. You want to make sure that they can access those memories after this heat cools... Sending out my thoughts to you.. Hope this works out very well for the both of you.

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James Ssekamatte
James Ssekamatte

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