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What Rejections Can Teach Us
It’s more about who is rejected than who is rejecting
The idea of getting rejected is one that most of us try to avoid like the plague.
The fear of getting rejected can be seen in the creation of fake personalities from “nice guys” to all sorts of characters where people seek validation.
I have been on both sides of this as well. I have feared rejection hence behaving like a nice guy and I have also gotten rejected when I decided to stop being a nice guy for reasons that are now clear to me.
In short, my nice guy character was one that always sought ways to make the other people happy in hopes that they would love me back.
I started getting uncomfortable because I thought it started to sound manipulative, selfish, and not respectful of the friendships I had.
Some people are comfortable with maintaining such a character but I wanted to make my relationships clear and based on trust so I decided to break my nice guy character and tell the people involved the truth.
This feeling made me sick to the stomach, constant regret and all but one thing gave me comfort among all that.
Knowing that I am now living my truth.
